Creating Lasting Change Through Habit Building
I know we are all making time to relax and do some inner work and digging deeper during this paradigm shift. Having all of this valuable time on our hands creates an opportunity to cultivate new skills, mindsets, and habits that some of us have been meaning to focus on. Adopting a new practice can be a complex concept that there is no straight-up answer for, but I can share what's helped me on my path. First thing I would recommend is getting out your journal and writing down your responses for each of the following prompts because it will help you authentically take account of your growth.
Define your why.
Have you asked yourself why you want to integrate this new practice into your life? I mean like really take some time to sit with your answer. Then, ask yourself if it's coming from a place of fear or love - you will be able to tell. If you determine that it is coming from a place of love, then give yourself all of the love. If you realize that it is coming from a place of fear or an aspect of self-loathing, then that's ok too, and applaud yourself for recognizing that. Now the next steps can be a game-changer at this point; I would set your focus on forming a more gentle practice, like keeping up with a gratitude journal or doing daily meditations on compassion.
Visualize the mastered habit.
What does it feel and look like to embody a person that practices *insert habit here* daily? Who are you in this new reality? I like to set my timer for two minutes and really hyper-focus on precisely who I am becoming by mastering this habit.
Find three "besties".
These are three examples of people doing the same thing well (Lacy Phillips calls them 'Expanders'), I call them "besties in my head." Dig deep and research these individuals and really hone in on what exactly got them to the place you aspire to be in. Follow these people on social media, understand them, relate to them…prove to yourself that you can do it too! See to believe. Visualize it.
Subconscious work.
This is SO vital. Recreate your belief system with new perspectives that serve your higher self. Your beliefs become your thoughts, which become your words, which become your actions, which become your life. My favorite ways to do this are through:
Mirror Work: Speak to yourself in the mirror each morning - look directly into your own eyes and say positive affirmations to yourself out loud, like "I acknowledge my own self-worth – my confidence is rising." "I let go of any negative feelings about myself or my life and accept all that is good.". "I always attract only the best of circumstances, and I have the best positive people in my life."
Hypnosis/Meditation: Before you go to bed, find a guided meditation or hypnosis to listen to. This work is necessary for rebuilding our belief systems around self-worth and acceptance. From this place of confidence, we can manifest our desires and build new habits much more quickly.
Document your feelings daily.
…use your journal as your tool for accountability. Check-in each day with your progress, and don't get discouraged if you fall off track. Just pick up where you left off and give yourself some grace.
Finally, fill yourself with love through the process. Celebrate ALL of your milestones and do not beat yourself up in the moments in which you find yourself lacking. Go back to your why when you feel lost or discouraged, and acknowledge that this is a process with many different emotional levels. You will get there. Please be kind to yourself. Building a new habit must be based on loving yourself more deeply - not punishing yourself for who you are not. Otherwise, you'll slip back into self-loathing behavior.
This is all about leveling up, changing your reality, aligning yourself to a new frequency. I am so freakin proud of you for your commitment to integrating with the next version of yourself while acknowledging that you are whole and enough already, exactly as you are.
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